Finally, beloved, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Keep on doing the things that you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, and the God of peace will be with you.–Philippians 4:8-9
After completing my doctoral studies at Regis College, I was invited to apply for a faculty position at Regis. I was so excited as I felt a connection to the mission and values of Regis College and felt that the faculty and staff really lived the mission.
Working in academia is a different animal than the Navy. Although warmly welcomed and invited to participate I found that after I contributed to a conversation, or asked a question, the faculty just, kind of, looked at me. Imagine a dog with an inquisitive head tilt. Conversation just stopped. I became so self conscious, was I not “getting it”? Am I really off base? Answers to some of my questions were short, not entirely dismissive, but close. I’m not fitting in, I thought. I decided to be quiet, or at least quiet for me.
I had weekly meetings with the Dean whom I asked about my experiences. She said “Deb, we don’t think like you do; you are making us think outside our normal thought processes, you are doing fine.”
Over time as I got to know people, their interests and perspectives and they got to know me, we now connect and my relationships are growing and positive. I still occasionally get a head tilt, but I have received feedback from other faculty that they like my questions/perspectives. I now have a greater appreciation for the nuances of academia, helped along by fellow faculty who have assisted in my adjustment. Tincture of time, listening for understanding, open hearts, and genuine interest have helped us find connection. Although I am still very much a freshman in the faculty, I now feel like I’m part of the community.
May we be open to new ways of thinking and being community. Amen.
–Deb Roy